Comments on: Love Languages

By: Pink Light Images

Pink Light Images — Tue, 18 Nov 2014 20:27:00 +0000

i am most definitely words of affirmation – which makes it hard when i seem to be the only one AFFIRMING myself. But that is my fault for expecting someone to “love” me the way I want to recieve love. I don’t know what my hubby’s is….but i have a guess it is acts of service…because he has this thing about to-do lists and things wanting to be DONE. etc.

Another great eye opening test for me was the Life Languages. I learned how being a responder has really opened my eyes about how i RESPOND to my environment, people, scenarios. If anyone is interested in checking that out as well…i highly recommend it. It was another life-changing moment. 🙂

https://www.lifelanguages.com/life-languages

either way, i’ve found there is power in knowing yourself better….it helps immensely!!! 🙂

By: Stacy Godfrey

Stacy Godfrey — Tue, 18 Nov 2014 17:51:28 +0000

When my husband and I went through some hard struggles someone had reccomended this book to us. It was funny because I had gotten it as a wedding gift three years prior but never read it. Boy, did I wish I had. It really opened my eyes to one aspect that I was missing in our marriage relationship.

My husband’s love language is Quality Time. He loves to have real conversations and to do things as a couple. But with his work schedule at the time, and a newborn I struggled to give him that attention. I thought I was showing him how I loved him by doing all the other love languages except the very one he needed to feel fulfilled. This book and relization was my “aha” moment. Which helped to change things around for my perspective.

However, because of the particular events that occurred between us, my love languages were shattered and yet were also were way more pronounced than I ever thought was possible. (Mine are Words of Affirmation & Physical Touch.) I found that depending on my emotions of the day or week or whatever one would play more of a role than the other. This book was the first step to mending our relationship and better understanding eachother….along with loving eachother in a deeper way than we thought possible. Besides communication, these aspects we both needed to work on and continue to work on to this day.

When I know of friends going through things, this is one of the books I recommend if they already don’t know about it. Not only can this book apply in a marriage but it can apply in any relationship, which is just amazing!!! Thanks you sharing Brooke

By: Mary-Claire

Mary-Claire — Tue, 18 Nov 2014 17:18:58 +0000

I just took the quiz and emailed it to my husband. I think I’ll know the answer to his. Once I get the answer, I will need to compare it to how I actually respond…

Words of Affirmation are the ways I feel most loved, probably stemming from some bad experiences when I was younger that have unfortunately stuck with me. Quality Time and Acts of Service were both very close runners up too. Those tend to be the way I show love, which I never realized until now, so thanks for sharing that link!

By: Stefan Ladang

Stefan Ladang — Sun, 16 Nov 2014 22:09:22 +0000

Given love at my daily professional live is more the act of service. Outside my professional environment is this more quality time physical touch and words of affirmation. I like to receive love via hugs, spends time together, and via words of affirmation this helps me to come out the black tunnel So the sense of aloneness is disappeared and feel more secure . Practical steps to given more love to others is sometime to listen carefully to other what they expect and given the love/feedback that they need the most. So they get every day energy in life.

By: Paulo Alexandre Carvalho

Paulo Alexandre Carvalho — Sun, 16 Nov 2014 20:19:05 +0000

No Brooke! There is nothing more comforting than give love to something or someone. I can not live any other way. I love to love and be loved, but mostly give love, whom I love, at my friends, to photography and give love to my life.
When I give love, I try to understand how the other side would like to receive. I think it depends a lot on who is on the other side and the circumstances. If by words, gestures, be present, receive gifts… The important it is to give love.
In receive love, I do not have a favorite way. I am Already glad to receive the love. However, I think the presence, being present with time, has a slight edge. Oh! And in the case of someone we love, being present with an lovely look and smile.

By: Denise McGill

Denise McGill — Sun, 16 Nov 2014 17:54:34 +0000

My main love language is Words of Encouragement but my husbands main love language is Acts of Service. I have to continually remember not to just tell him how much he means to me but to do little things for him that show him and in return he tells me how much I mean to him. It’s a win-win. I think that like our partners and business acquaintances, we tend to forget that our children are also people with a love language of their own. Once I figured that out and began addressing each of the children with things that met their individual need, I got lots more respect and reciprocation from them. Thanks for the reminder.